Simon Sinek: Why Leaders Eat Last

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About this presentation In this in-depth talk, ethnographer and leadership expert Simon Sinek reveals the hidden dynamics that inspire leadership and trust. In biological terms, leaders get the first pick of food and other spoils, but at a cost. When danger is present, the group expects the leader to mitigate all threats even at the expense of their personal well-being. Understanding this deep-seated expectation is the key difference between someone who is just an "authority" versus a true "leader." For more on this topic, check out Sinek's latest book Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don't now available for pre-order. Watch more videos here: 3:30 Happiness breakdown (4 chemicals) 5:53 1) Endorphins 7:16 Importance of endurance 7:59 2) Dopamine 8:19 Dopamine is to make sure get stuff done 9:10 Goals must be tangible - we have to see the goal to stay focused 10:17 Dopamine is dangerous when unbalanced 15:07 Feel safe 15:40 In our organization, danger isn't a constant it is a variable 17:05 The responsibility of leadership is 2 things: 1) Determine who gets in and who doesn't 2) how big do we make the circle of safety 17:33 Great leaders extend safety to the outermost of the org 17:53 3) Serotonin - leadership chemical 19:30 Trying to enforce relationships 22:22 Value of group-living 22:28 Being alpha comes at a cost 26:01 The cost of leadership is self-interest 27:15 Makes you feel safe 27:34 4) Oxytocin 29:03 Businesses aren't rational, it's about feeling safe. "It's human -- physical touch" 29:27 "Human bonds matter" 29:29 Act of human generosity 32:19 Leaders spend time/energy not money 37:30 You have to make sure you can trust others as leaders because you won't have time to help everyone 38:47 Cortisone - the feeling of stress and anxiety 40:59 Needs to shut down during times 41:42 Cortisone inhabits oxytocin 42:18 "Our jobs are killing us.. leaders are responsible" 43:12 Leadership is a decision, a choice. About Simon Sinek A trained ethnographer and the author of Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek has held a life-long curiosity for why people and organizations do the things they do. Studying the leaders and companies that make the greatest impact in the world and achieve a more lasting success than others, he discovered the formula that explains how they do it. Sinek's amazingly simple idea, The Golden Circle, is grounded in the biology of human decision-making and is changing how leaders and companies think and act. His innovative views on business and leadership have earned him invitations to meet with an array of leaders and organizations, including Microsoft, Dell, SAP, Intel, Chanel, Members of the United States Congress, and the Ambassadors of Bahrain and Iraq. Sinek recently became an adjunct staff member of the RAND Corporation, one of the most highly regarded think tanks in the world. He also works with the non-profit Education for Employment Foundation to help create opportunities for young men and women in the Middle East region. He lives in New York, where he teaches graduate level strategic communications at Columbia University. About 99U The 99U delivers the action-oriented education that you didn't get in school, highlighting real-world best practices for making ideas happen.

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Echo Zoolu : when he mentions companies and our jobs are killing us, i think the same thing goes for high school

Xogroroth666 : I was a 1st Lieutenant in the army. I refused to use the officers mess, the officers cantine, instead, i ate and drank with the privates. To much dismay of the other officers, of course. I should annoy the living piss out of the troops, command them into silliness, brake them, be... an 'officer' (read, jackass). I cleaned the toilets with them, I peeled potatoes with them, I did everything they did. When we were on maneuvers, I often asked my men for advice, rather than just command them, because, even though 'merely' a private, this private could have a marvelous idea I did not think off. We discussed the upsides and downsides of ideas. Now, here's the funny part... When others 'commanded' the same troops, they did not really feel up to do it. I, on the other hand, only had to ask, and they went further than I asked them to. How you approach a certain group, makes the whole difference...

Vishalakshi K.M. : i think just watching this video gave me a huge rush of oxytocin. Thankyou Simon Sinek. The world needs more people like you.

Rik van der Ploeg : There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.

How To Make Sushi : he is a great public speaker!

downbntout : I'm a caregiver to senior disabled people, under the heel of a shareholder-driven company, with angry people on all sides, and this made me see how I can be part of the solution.

Niteesh Yadav : Best 45 minutes spent on NYE!

Prince OOCHIE : How does anyone dislike this? This is brilliant!

Karol Scott : amazing!!! this is so true!!! as an Army SGT. I learned that I must make sure everyone is taken care of before I take care of myself

papillon : “If you’ve ever met someone and you’re nervous meeting them, you’re not the alpha.” Damn, so all those hot women I was chasing were all alpha!

Billder Inbaja : I can tell you why I eat last. I am a Construction Manager, big jobsites, big crews. When work is on, it's ON.... lot's of dangerous activities in construction. Everyone needs to focus. When lunchtime comes and the guys sit down to relax, that's when I go out to talk to them. Real leaders care about people, and they know non-work conversation is the way to get to know them. I spend lunchtime forming relationships, sharing what we care about outside of work. I pride myself on forming high performance teams that work together to accomplish amazing things. Lunchtime is too important a time for a real leader to sit locked away in the office eating and reading the internet.

mohamed jameel : Amazing video simply amazing. Why isnt this taught in schools?

Etouke Efon : Absolutely awesome. I follow many motivational speakers. Simon Sinek is the best. I know what to do now.

Arch Angel : The Title was the first lesson in leadership I ever learned as a young man as a recruit in the U.S. Marines. My squad ate before me and it was my responsibility to know which recruits were 'Diet' Recruits and which were Dbl Ration ones. After they went through the line and were fed, then I ate. The Platoon Guide or Senior Recruit ate last of all. Then the D.I.s......I can still eat a full meal in about 4 minutes. LOL.....and I'm past 50 LOL

Chris-Anthony : I've been binge watching his talks like tv series and they've been so rewarding. His views are very refreshing, human, sincere and authentic Onward to more videos! Thanks for uploading!

Jose Morales : Great topic. Even better speaker. Wow. Cannot believe that more than 340 people disliked the talk?

Jessica Martin : I could watch this 1 million times and it still wouldn't be enough. So SO good.

Kaiser68 : LOVE this talk! This is why we struggle at work to put up with a shitty boss. Fantastic talk!

Chris Gunter : I am transformed by this talk. I've been thinking about what I can do to contribute to humanity as a whole and this has affirmed it for me. I know what I want. Thank you.

zak edelman : I dont know your process, but..GOOD SYSTEM!! :)

红月亮 : This man is pretty smart. Pretty smart..

Linda Yo : Wow, Bravo Simon Sinek!! I literally clap my hands in front of my computer monitor!!

MorphManDude : Sadly at my work my team leader pushes against leaving our desks and taking that extra time to go see someone in person unless it is necessary. I tend to ignore that and just do it anyway. I work in an IT Help Desk team and the fact that I walk across the building to go see people they really appreciate it. I could easily do almost everything from my desk but it doesn't have that same connection creation between me and my customers/team mates. Sadly bad management who aren't real leaders always create conflict and stress for those who do the right things.

Avinash Seth : One of the great talks i heard 😍

Spaceman Spiff : I dont know. I would rather just get my diploma and skip the song and dance routine. I don't need a ceremony to feel accomplished or special. When I was in the military, i LOATHED promotion ceremonies. I even said to my First Sergeant when I got promoted to Staff Sergeant, "You can keep the insignia and the ceremony, the only people that need to know that I got promoted, is the finance office."

Philip Etienne : "If you"ve ever met someone and you are nervous meeting them, you are not the alpha" well stated!

Augure Zera : One of is best speeches!

Noj Hinkins : Great talk and book. I was fortunate enough to track wild dogs as they hunted in the Okavango Delta a few years ago. The alpha female was the best hunter. She and her lead hunt dogs would catch and kill an impala, then sit to one side and let the pack eat. They repeated this until the whole pack was satisfied, then finally they took down the last kill and ate themselves. This was a big healthy pack and I understad that this approach means African Wild dogs are way more successful in hunts than lions for example. A great example of what Simon talks about here- leaders literally eating last.

Alex Fleming : My key take-aways... 1) Dopamine is our version of clicker training; & 2) Floorboards over keyboards.

chris Tanzer : If companies would follow, we would stay all our life's in the same job,!!! Thx, very good.,,

Samuel Plante : Every single minute of this entire 45:50 minutes video is delightful!

Cam B : I write things on my to-do list and immediately cross them out all the time :)

Buhlebezwe Ntiwane : This Guy right here is awesome....!! Loved the talk.

maddball party produktions : Such great teachings. This lecture is spot on and a must see for those who aspire to become leaders!

cuck fragile white bois : If i were to ever become a CEO and reap massive amounts of money, i would pay tons of money to implement his philosophy within my corporate culture.

Rafael Colorina : The mother Theresa of the alpha male... Bravo Mr Sinek!!!

DeathToTheLeft DieDieDie : I would have a problem with you giving Mandella money... He's a communist and socialist stooge for one thing... He also killed the nation he claimed to care about!

Boopalan Anakkavur : After watching this video, for first time in my life I Murmured JUST MIND BLOWING

Helton Moraes : His biological explanations are, to say the least, a bit romanticized...

David McCallum : Excellent and so relevant. I have always wondered why we are surrounded with management but have zero leadership!

Sisibel Flores : O:-) thank you for your wisdom and for being a true leader and teaching us. You are a true blessing<3

M C A : That’s curious. I have skipped every graduation ceremony. I never enjoyed the idea of recognition. Same in the Marine Corps. The only person I want to make proud is me.

John Driscoll : This guy is the Albert Einstein of salesmen. He could probably sell bags of sand to desert nomads.

The Eclectic Dyslexic : Good talk, but it would be nice if he checked his facts. I don't know if the research had been debunked at this point, but women don't sync up... The alpha male thing is also debunked, but that's a whole other ball park... I think the way he is using it here is okay, in this context he essentially means the leader in a particular situation, which may not always be the same person within the same group depending on the problems being faced.

Peter Lohan : He has some good points, but I just get this feeling when watching him that he's "taking a bit of license" with his assertions & examples. And don't ask me why. Nevertheless, plenty of stuff to ponder & put into practice.

Luisa Plantier Martins : WOW Simon Sinek, well spoken, you got my attention! BRAVO!!!!

TrollFaceTheMan : Great view my friend, excellent job and Presentation. Very informative!

Rafael C. de Carvalho : Holy crap. This actually suddenly explains a LOT... one of the best ideas I got to eat for quite some time... GREAT video!

Souihli Ahmed : Had me clapping my hands alone in my room.