4 Steps To Make People Instantly Like You

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goodgirl140 : I've been waiting for you guys to do Graham Norton for a while now! He is the most witty and likable person I know. Love him!

Pop Land : I think a LOT of Irish people are naturally friendly, complimentary and seek out humour and therefore are widely liked. The accents of Ireland are also very musical so he changes his pitch a lot

Deiku : Can you make a video on how to cheer people up? thanks

Benjamin Grimm : Learning to socialize is like learning a foreign language from scratch.

Kazakh Gamer : no the first step Graham does is gets his guests drunk.

Software Man : I read something very interesting during my psychology class. It's a technique to make people like you. If you want someone to like you, borrow something from them and then return it back. This makes them like you. But, i my tested thing is to be rude to people (to set the bar low) and then apologize which makes them think you are really nice lol and they like you 🙃

Risamama : I'd like to see a video about someone doing the exact opposite of charisma and breaking apart how they could have improved. Whether that be a character from a movie or an actual interview.

Gumersindo Cebollero : this channel is a great tool for robots

RapperGeekTV : I'm gonna watch these videos often

Mitch Parker : Or just buy someone food and or booze to get someone to like you. I'm terrible at making videos, Do you like me? - Self Deprecation

here for the milk tea : Can you do more videos on charismatic women, please? A lot of your videos focus on male speakers/personalities and some of the humour or techniques that they use work better in a 'bro' setting or don't always come across well when delivered by a woman - there's something in that society also likes women to be refined and polite. There's a lot of women who don't necessarily use humour all the time, but manage to command respect and have that sense of magnetism around them - some of the TED speakers come to mind as an easy example.

Conor Casey : You forgot his Irish charm. ;)

Rafa Avila : We're interested in others when they're interested in us

Raluca Sandu : When you don't even need a notification cause you're on youtube all the time anyway 😂

here for the milk tea : Would like to add that in the bit about reading body language, in both cases Graham approaches with his hand held slightly out to be ready for a handshake. He notices Josh Widdicombe coming in with shoulders slightly more forward (more awkward) and with his hand outstretched, therefore he uses the handshake + back pat (caveat - back patting doesn't work so well if you're female). Jeremy Renner enters with his shoulders set back and open body language, which might indicate being open to a hug.

:-p :-D : Graham Norton is definitely the best talk show host in the world.

E D G E master : Me: *watches a try not to laugh challenge like it says I should* Also me: *gets cancer instead of humor*

Collin Wagenmakers : One of the hardest things about self deprecating jokes I experience, is that people sometimes don't get that you're making a joke. One time after an intense group workout, one of the participants told the rest he wasn't as fatigued as he hoped, so he was considering going for a 10K run. To which I responded (with the intention of making a joke): "That's crazy! I can barely walk anymore, let alone go for a 10K run." Some thought I was being dead serious, even though they saw me walking 10 seconds earlier. So in stead of laughing, people thought there was something wrong with my legs. Any advice on how to make sure others take it as a joke?

Renata Almeida : I would LOVE to watch a video that gives tips of how to reject somebody without creating tension and keeping a playful mood, especially in social situations. For example, I'm a woman and I always turn down guys in a club saying sorry with a big smile, I dont know if this is the best way possible but is the only one I came up with

Tobo McLukewarm : Best talk show host by a mile

Brik Haus : Please remember that Graham has a team of people doing research on his guests so he knows what he can and cannot make fun of. His personal charm and people skills aside, it'd be difficult for him to do this show week after week without them. Just saying it helps to know the person, or at least a few details before you start poking fun at them. You never know what can be a sensitive subject to someone so keeping it light can be difficult for serious people at first.

Alice # : If you wanna improve your relationships this is the only channel in the world that makes you feel like you REALLY learnt something at the end of the video. Thank you soooo much!

SoulCasper : I love Graham so much, he always make me laugh. Ben, you ROCK! I'm glad you're doing this videos too. Thank you so much.

Ale Ale : Make a video about Bill Burr

Jonic_P : I've been lobbying for this episode for SOOOO LONG Constantly seeing celebrities that don't usually open up or even do interviews go on Graham Norton's and show and just love it has made me deeply interested in how the man does it!!!!

swaroopa Rajpurohit : One of the things I've noticed about Graham Norton (and I was very surprised that I noticed it in the first place since I'm usually laughing my butt off from the jokes thrown from everywhere) was when he notices that when a guest feels left out, he will cut right in to who's speaking (also depends on whether the person he's cutting is saying something important or not) and ask the left out guest something and make him feel closed in the circle. It's an amazing skill and my respect for him multiplied tenfold after I saw that. Basically he calls so many guests at the same time, is because he can, he knows how to manage those many personalities well.

mannelshah : to be fair, that mark ruffalo joke caught us all off gard in it was RELLY hillarious i don't think anyone would not LOL at it, it still make me laugh even tho i watched it alot of times.

Callum Dineeno : Did this guy call Robbie Williams a rockstar? 😂😂😂

Maya Angel : Who wants a breakdown video on Heath Ledger's Joker?

A New Love Official : I instantly like someone who has a sense of humor and possess the ability of making fun of himself in order to give people a comfortable feeling towards him. Everybody wants to be happy no matter how bad the situation is, so it's not bad to carry a joke everywhere you go, atleast you can make people smile in every little things you do.

Yuthvong Yem : I'm probably going to be a virgin for life. How's that for self deprecation?

MR.X : 1:06 Actually he WAS gonna shake his hand, BUT Jeremy already made the gesture to hug so Graham copied.

ConspiracyJuice : I'm glad y'all finally made a video about Graham Norton, we've been asking for this for a while.

Sage Hornet : Can you make a video about, how to make friends at university orientations!!!! As a freshman in university

Personal Power : I am not really good at making compliments but I can confirm, humor and self deprecation is incredible. If you can laugh about yourself with confidence you are already good to go! If you tease you can go over board, but if you make jokes about yourself you can't really go wrong! We all like to laugh! If you want someone to like you, make them associate a positive emotion with your character. When they associate fun and laughter with you, then they will enjoy being around you and search for your presence. Good to see a fellow YouTube deconstructing celebrities social skills! I really enjoyed this one, probably because I like graham norton!

L. Willis : jimmy fallon seems to be the master of cultivated laughter...

Pechna : So basically overreacting to everything makes you likeable? I disagree. Real life is not a TV show with fake audience, people will see through your fake reaction and you will end up awkward. Anyways, if you need to act in a specific way for someone to like you, maybe, just maybe they are not the ideal buddy. Just saying. Just be yourself and if someone doesn't like you, their problem. Then find someone else who is worth talking to, without any pretense.

Milly Z : How have you guys not already done a video about Ricky Gervais? I think you will come up with an incredible break down about him! Keep up the good work 👊👊

Corey : Great job and excellent tips. Watching this helped me realize that for the past 2 weeks I've been overly serious about life. I will now take the time to smile and laugh as cultivating happiness within me equals happiness around me. Thanks for sharing:)

Animegal6 : i would love to see a video about how to talk about yourself!

Nolan Bunyaviroch : Can you make a video on working with others? How do you become the ideal working partner? How do you encourage people to work? How do you work well with others? How do you become efficient with your working partners?

hipnhappenin : Yay!! You FINALLY made a video on Graham!! He is the best talk show host today.

Blue 66boy66 : What I got from this is Mark Ruffalo appears part of the Hollywood pedo network.

Super Vegito : 1 step: *MONEY MONEY MONEY MONEY*

Micha Vlijmen, van : 1 Warm friendly vibe, smile, touch, compliment based on accomplishment 2 humor, and make them feel you get them, laugh along with other's joke more time listening than speaking 3 playfull teasing gives a familiar feeling (dont attack identity, dont tease about something that can not be changed). Best if earlier before, a compliment. 4 listens intently and focused, let the other talk. To be intersting by being intetested, eyecontact

afro symphony : graham and conan are my favorite talk show hosts of all time

Dance God : I feel like talk shows aren't a great thing to study for interpersonal communication, given there's a whole audience and all parties are focused on looking friendly/likable for the camera/audience.

Curtis Edwards : I'm a new subscriber to this channel. I have to say this video is on point. Well done. More like this.

Amazing Supergirl : I'm American and Graham Norton is the only foreign talk show I watch. ❤️ I assume using him was just as example since ALL hosts have these skills. Ya can't do a good job without being very good with people. I watch his show because it's funny and different but I wouldn't be interested in being real life friends with such a hyper cutup. IMO being a good, responsive listener is by far the most important.

Tyler Knight : step 1: Don't listen to this video and just hang around people who resonate with u. If u follow stuff like this you'll just be surrounded by fake people and never actually have a friend or people u can trust. How can u truly fit in with people if u have to try to do it? Point being just be urself and if ur not happy with that, the problem lies within u and u need to search urself. Ur welcome ;)