Tenzin Palmo Jetsunma - The difference between Genuine Love and Attachment

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Kayla Rae : this is perfect


James Brudnick : I don't know why, well I guess I do, but the plastic water bottle bugs me.

Debbie Moran : This is beautifully expressed, thank you <3

Barbara Padilha : this is amazing omg

Motion Blur : A relationship without attachment isn't possible. Every relationship has attachment and the stronger the bounding the more attachment is involved. Evolution does not give a shit about spirituality. If a mother would not be overly caring for her child and wouldn't be attached to it then it would easily die and humankind would not have survived. How can a monk or a nun talk about attachment in relationships if abandoned family life and is supposed to live in castity.

Matador : Alan Watts covered this perfectly in the 70's It's regurgitated but she understands and relays the message perfectly.

Mamunur Rashid : Amazing......

Pichai Peachy : AMAZING!

Kenneth Griffey : So I've read all the comments. People are misinterpreting what she is saying. When someone is attached it is far worse. Doesn't mean if we love and things go south in a relationship that we won't feel pain. But it is far less pain than if we are wrapped up with infatuation. But the real message isn't the difference between the two. It is that loving someone in a way that says what can i do to make you happy and disregard my own desires. And if your spouse loves you the same way then it's even more fulfilling. The attachment part does come naturally but when love is the primary action or feeling it is more perfect. Not perfect but more perfect. Attachment in her meaning is like an alcoholic. They cling to it. And when they don't have it can't function like normal. They fall apart. So when you can't have that person you were so attached to, now it's far worse than if love was the primary action. But even still the significant other or spouse should be on the same page. But you also can't control what the other thinks feels or does.

MrBena1234 : was wondering if anyone could help me? i have recently developed feelings for my first love from school.. we haven't spoke in over six years and over new years we began talking again. immediately things felt the same as before if not even more intense between us. we both originally agreed to not let these feelings over come us, as the distance and timing was wrong and it wouldn't work. we met up for coffee a week later after talking none stop and i felt the connection was so strong and genuine and i know she felt it too. she says the feelings are still there from when we were younger and always will be and its pretty obvious the way she feels just by the way she looks and talks to me. so i confronted her and told her how i felt and she said she doesn't like me in the same way... i know this isn't true as much as she wants to say it i know her feelings are there. i do believe her when she says she cant like me in the same way though, for however many reason shes keeping between me and her. shes convinced that she cant be with me in that way. obviously that hurt i don't believe their are many people in this world that wouldn't be hurt by that. the problem now is she wants me to stay and be very close friends, almost to carry on like before but to forget the fact i have these feelings. which for me would be very destructive long term when she does find a partner. Or i leave and save myself the pain later but not be able to stay and make her happy. either way this situation hurts for me but if i stay i wont for her. "i want you to be happy, if that includes me, great. if that doesn't include me, i just want your happiness" so if i leave to save myself pain and cause her it does that make me selfish? would you say the Buddhist thing to do is stay and cause my own pain to make her happy? do i even love her or is this just attachment becuase i want her to be happy but this hurts. if she did find a partner yeah it would hurt but i would still be happy for her. is the whole meaning of genuine love vs attachment that if i really loved her i wouldn't feel any of this pain at all? becuase that goes against everything i know..

Dan Cisneros : There was a time not to long ago when I was going through a lot of hurt from a heart break, I stumbled upon this video,and it helped me a lot,thank you for your true and wise words.

blood bath : goosebumps all over!!!!

Alexander Whitewings : I hav watch this many times and stills don't get it, can attachment & loves happen at the same time? Is there a difference betwee I want to make you happy and I want you to be happy? I love you, I want you to be happy and I want you to make me happy,utimatley both of us will be happy. You wouldnt want to stay in a relationship where only you are making sacrifies for someone but they doesnt make your life better.

SimoneGeron : Breathtaking and healing <3

mandy baende : WILL AND JADA WAS TALKING ABOUT THIS. They were saying love is not romantic. It’s a partnership where both individuals who are already fulfilled with happiness coming together ❤️🙏🏽

Steph H. : its hard for people to love without getting attached. ex: do you truly not love your blanket If u get attached sleeping to it every night? or the idea of thinking about your crush and you can't help but get attached. thats why buddhist believe love is suffering

Ashim Jain : Such subtle differences in the deeper meaning of the terms we take for granted and use everyday -- it is a sheer delight to be able to see them. Thank you for the enlightenment!

Bo O : Alot of people say this alot, "What is love?" I say to that. The Bible says, "God is love" so if you wanna see love, know love, feel love, give love, I suggest we seek love. Meaning seek God. When you seek God/Love, you'll be able to see true love, know true love, feel true love, give true love.

Henry Santoso : A confused attempt to split one into two. :(

Catherine Evangelista : Is she married? Or did she ever felt in love? Why will people listen to someone that is inexperience on what they are advising to people?

Augusto Ascanio : I've heard bullshit, but this is the winner definitely, I couldn't even watch in full, you can wear different but it doesn't make you to own the true, every one is different, I love the attachment and diversity, no to the cheap physiological manipulation in internet, this monk is just a business.

Spiritdove : I love when I know they are part of me and when I lose that I also lose that part of me.. not that they do something for me. but because they brightened part of my very being I came to this conclusion myself on my own. I agree with her totally. selfish love is not real love.. just for self gratification it isnt real

Spiritdove : my only issue is why does she have to make herself look like a man

Heidi K. : Of course these seducers are friendly, the devil himself masquerades as an angel of light! (see 2. Cor. 11:14) @ all: we are living in the end times, there's only one truth. JESUS CHRIST says: I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the FATHER except through me. John 14:6 You have been warned.

Conor Waters : that means there are about 100 couples in the world today who are actually in love

Bigasstbone : Venerable You don't mention how a person can be attached to someone for their wealth and social status. You love them and want them to be happy but not necessarily when someone is doing it for their own ego.

Ridwan Firdaus : This is beautiful

Joakim Dernebo : Thank you for this wisdom

Weird. .Movies1110111 : Thank you for helping us.

Falko : Very wise words!

Dunja Alabed : This is so true and so perfect

Regina Louise : this is so great❤

Bianca Peixoto : I watched this video years ago and I didn't understand it. I thought "how can i love someone and let them go to live and be in pain?" but now I understand it. Thank you for the great message

aby heek : Looks like love is something that you want to have...but you can't own.. !!

Paul Timms : Forgive my intrusion. This is new-ageism. And the author of this philosophy is correct in that Romance really disillusions people into a false notion of love (or the wrong form of love) but the attachment theory proposed here is an old dogmatic fallacy, and simply is not a realistic way for a physical being to exist in a world full of physical relationships. All organisms are attached to their environments and to things. Not having attachments only makes sense if you are a purely spiritual being, which we are not. I have heard too many times when people don;t want to take responsibility for relationships they tend to repeat what TEnzin suggest in this video or claim that the person they are throwing away is too dependant on them...hello. That is what relationships are. We depend on each other and our attachments when we need support, belief and respect. No, physical person is an island.... The real question should be put first. What form of love? And how do we build the correct foundations to find the less harmful forms of it which encourages healthier relationships. No offence but monks become ascetics for a reason. They no longer are prepared to engage in physical relations anymore but they want to advise people on the way of an ascetic. ps. Anyone here who claims they are not attached to something they love whether it be an object or a person or hopes to find this 'unattached form of love' is deluded. The course of action is to engage, to build to grow and learn.....and to understand where love should be founded upon.

Lexa's Subject : We still have so much to learn. Yes, genuine love is not selfish. It is selfless. We need to learn how to love others more than ourselves. It's still conditional love though if we only do this to the person we love romantically. This just doesn't apply to love romantically. Our feelings for someone though can overwhelm us in so many ways. But ultimately, loving someone genuinely is the only way.

Sarah R : Love you Jetsunma

Brahmahum : Attachment is not good or bad out of itself, but interdependent. Attachment is an essential part of creation. From attachment, and care, love is born. Actually love is an experience of the creative force.

mandy baende : BEAUTIFUL WAY TO DESCRIBE LOVE 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Arrizón M : Dear everyone,This is how I love the soul Y♡U.I just want Y♡UR happiness.Be well and be blessed.

MAT : What is love


Ezydenias : Hilarious, me and a friend of mine just talked about exactly this. How quaint. But yeah we noticed the same thing with the Attachement, it sometimes seems so vile and weird. Sometimes it seems necessary. Maybe there are times when you need to attach to someone, of course someone who is willing to help you or on the other front attach you someone to you which isn't that big of a benefit to you. I think she didn't put out those words in a simple text so we follow them blind, she wants us to think about it. Which I find a nice point. Well okay she could seem like an arrogant snot but I have the feeling she doesn't mean it in that sense. I mean she even says words like Ideally, which means that is not what is going to happen. Also I think she kinda only talks about that one kind of love, not all forms of love, at least in this video.

john smith : Physical attachment is the root of suffering......

john smith : Being together all day everyday is what causes attachment. When that happens youll become dependant on that person and when you're not with them you wont know how to function without them. Thats why you have to set up a BOUNDARY of giving each other space and independence.

john smith : So true !

Calla Antoinette : Buddha left his wife and kid. That's why Buddhism is self centered.

Mrdead Inmypocket : A verbose way of saying "If you love something, set it free".

Innocent Malik : She even does not knows that her clueless theory is responsible for how many breakups thank you very much maim because of you my gf left me she said we have only attachment and she had to find some one other but i am sure when she will find her new bf then the new one will left her because he will thinks its just a attachment and vice versa......for a moment if you are right but what about me i love her a lot and i sacrifice many many things for her happiness but your theory makes negative thoughts in her mind thanks again.. dear may you are right but this kind of love only exits in temples.In practical life people have to do many other things like job stress,family responsibilities etc.If you want to find a soul mate kind of love than sorry to say its very very rare in this modren era.So i wana say you please dont think about your relationship after watching this video as in this era if you find attachment in someone than this is also love